The Sexy Series: Preface


A lot of people are probably wondering why I’m doing this series or why it’s necessary. The truth is I don’t know how much it’s going to help or if it will help anyone at all, but what I do know is that there is no resource that exists like this. While there are still forums on Facebook like the now defunct Belize Action and the what the fuck how are they still active Repent Belize for the close-minded to discuss repentance in an already quite morally conservative society —where petitions are made against BFLA for the abortions they allegedly offer on their site (they don’t) — there’s no place to ask questions and receive answers without judgement.

I’m not just talking out my ass, I have, over the years, gotten more questions about sex that I can count on my (don’t laugh) Tumblr, and while a handful of them were coming from a clearly lecherous place, the vast majority were young women with questions they couldn’t find answers to from people they related to. It was either the almost Victorian ideology of Belizean sexuality fed down by sexually repressed teachers during the one semester of sexual education we were given in first form or what the internet & television offered; a distant and not totally relatable American sexual education (from a system that has faults on it’s own).

Girls were sending me questions (anonymous and not) about birth control, anal sex, losing their virginity, menstruation, LGBTQ+ sexuality, the whole nine yards and at first I was confused. But then I remembered what “sex-ed” amounted to at Saint Catherine’s during my time. My starkest memory of what I had learned was that menstruation and the pain of childbirth are our punishments as women for Eve commiting the original sin. Oh and, tampons steal away your virginity, so good Christian girls only use pads. I remember standing up in front of the class after the nurse had left and making sure everyone knew that what she said wasn’t fucking true. They didn’t.

Abstinence only sex education doesn’t work, but considering how aggressively fixated in the past on certain moral issues a large percentage of the population seems to be at present, waiting around for government funded schools to offer more well rounded sexual education may be irresponsible.

So, if you guys are gonna keep asking me questions, I’m gonna answer them.
I’m not a medical professional, but if necessary I will consult one. I’m not your mom so I won’t wag my finger at you.

I just want to help.

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SexSamantha Singh